I met Rosie just over a year ago and was blown away by her outlook on life, knowledge and confidence. I had to know more! Turns out Rosie is a leading Relationship and Sexuality Coach empowering singles and couples to take their relationship with themselves and their partner to the next level. Her approach is holistic, compassionate, non-judgemental and client-focused. She uses methods such as coaching, meditation, tantric breathing and yoga. Meet Rosie…
Tell us about your journey, what sparked your passion for the health and wellness industry?
It’s usually from our own pain that we find our pleasure and passion in life, isn’t it? It wasn’t until I was down in the depths of suffering through an abusive relationship, being 10kg over my ideal weight, abusing my body with toxins and generally not living my life purpose, that I realised what I wanted to do and, more importantly, what I needed to change. I had to go through this journey of uncomfortability myself first before being able to help others. Someone once said to me that ‘there is nothing worse than a wounded healer’, and this has always stuck with me. I think it’s important to go through our own stuff first before trying to help others – especially when it comes to health and wellness. So I broke up with the arsehole, quit my job, lost all the emotional and physical weight I was carrying, cleansed out my diet and chased my dream of being a yoga teacher, becoming a relationship coach and empowering others to do the same!
What’s your number one wellness tip?
I could say yoga, running, green smoothies, meditation etc., however at the moment as I am two weeks into what I have coined a ‘drink detox’ – so this would be my number 1 tip for everyone to try! I have cut out all the acidic naughty liquids such as coffee, alcohol and energy drinks (I used to LOVE the occasional sneaky Red Bull…but always regretted it afterwards). I can’t even fully comprehend how amazing and alive I feel when I wake up in the mornings and how I have lost all my cravings for a coffee first thing, and instead am able to go for a run or do some yoga instead of being a slave to the addiction. This is the first time since being a teenager that I have not woken up and needed a coffee, or gone out and not needed a beer or wine, and all I can put it down to is mindpower. Obviously willpower is the clear starting point, but it’s controlling your mind that gets you through the every day. I believe with weening off addictions, there is a tiny percentage of the actual addiction (caffeine, nicotine, alcohol) which you get withdrawals from, however controlling the mind can make those disappear in a heart beat. The mind is a muscle and we can train it to do whatever we want – we hold the power, and it’s bloody empowering to take control of it.
What’s your one non-negotiable when it comes to your health?
Sleep. I have never been one of those work hard/play hard girls. If I am tired, I will fall asleep anywhere (dinner parties, on the couch, public transport – you name it). And water – I drink loads of water. I also like to exercise once a day to move the body – a walk, run, some yoga, or maybe sex if I’m lucky!
What motto do you live by?
Laugh often. It doesn’t matter where I am, whether walking down the street, lying in bed, around friends or strangers, I will crack up laughing about something that amused me. Laughter and smiling is contagious and we should do more of it. I’m thinking of holding some laughing yoga classes soon (watch this space!).
What is your proudest achievement?
Oh there is a few! Going to India to do my Yoga Teacher Training springs to mind first as this was possibly the most torturous yet rewarding experience of my life – a total mind/body immersion; I was completely out of my comfort zone – check out my documentary on my website homepage or about me section!
Also getting accepting into University to study Sex was a mighty fine moment for me.
What are your goals for the future?
When I think of goals, I think of how I want to feel. I want to feel happy, healthy and empowered. I want to share my world with a beautiful man and make babies. I want to educate people around the world about the importance of sex in relationships and how we can use sexuality as a tool to reignite the spark, rather than an after thought. I want to continue my individual coaching one-on-ones but also expand to eventually doing couples marriage counseling, as this would be extremely rewarding! I will write a sex column for a newspaper or magazine to inspire people to bring sex and self love to the forefront of their relationships as when we love ourselves more, naturally our confidence improves, hence our sex life blossoms making our marriage/relationships glow and grow! P.S. I just published one of my articles on Orgasm Daily, so the goals are already manifesting.
Tell us something not many people know about you?
My real name is Rosanna King. I had to change my alias to Rosie Rees (my middle name), as there is already a sex therapist called Dr Rosie King (go figure!). She is amazing by the way, a very incredible wise woman, I own all her books and she subscribed to my blog when I first launched it!
Can you share with us some of your quick bite-sized wisdom on relationships, sex and singledom?
OK, well the number one reason why most relationships break up or are going through tension is because there is an imbalance in roles. That is, the feminine is in the masculine (wearing the pants) and the masculine is in the feminine (‘yes darling, whatever you say darling’) in order to keep the female happy. Yet as much as a woman wants to feel in control, to take the lead and have her way, it’s important for a woman to also feel taken care of and looked after by the masculine. But so often the woman layers on masculine masks and becomes hardened, so much so that the real masculine can’t get through to her, in turn repulsing the male and making him feel redundant. It’s key for the woman to surrender, allow herself to be vulnerable, step back and let the man take the lead sometimes. This will make the male feel more empowered and in his center which has a profound affect on his attitude and actions.
As for sex, head back to 1st base for a second. I always say if it feels good kissing and caressing someone and your mouths naturally fit together nicely, they taste good and smell good, usually the sex will work and fit together nicely. Simple, yes, but remarkably accurate (frankly for me, an average kiss has been an average shag). There also must be that emotion, mental and/or spiritual spark and connection initially for there to be a long term sexual spark. Start at the start and never give it away too soon. No one likes an easy girl!
Singledom. My one piece of advice: own it! Don’t give a shit what anyone else thinks (family, friends, work, religion, pressure), just enjoy it and fully accept where you are at this moment. If you are single, there is a reason for that. Channel that energy into something worthwhile and valuable that you get your kicks out of. When the time is right, someone will come along but you first must have faith and embrace the single life – you know what they say, ‘you have to love yourself first….’.
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