To me, a marriage is a sacred relationship in which two people hold space for each other, to grow, learn and heal. Above anything else, I desired to be in the best shape mentally to transition to this exciting new chapter of my life. Leading up to the big day, I used meditation, reiki healing, acupuncture and a naturopath. My main aim was to clear any blockages and deal with any lingering emotions so that I would be truly open to the next stage of my life. My guiding words were EXPANSIVE, FREE, CLEAR and LOVE.
Energy – only work on your wedding when you’re calm, relaxed and happy. If you start feeling stressed, overwhelmed or anxious simply walk away. Otherwise, these feelings will creep into your wedding day. You want your wedding to be filled with good energy! You can spend hours pushing through the negative energy, trying to plan and make decisions OR you can choose to walk away and some back with a clear mind and fresh energy and I guarantee that in that moment everything will fall into place with ease and grace.
Ask for help – there are special people in your life who would love nothing more than to help you prepare for your big day. Delegate tasks to close family members, bridesmaids and friends. One day you will repay the favour.
Be organised – get everything out of your head and onto paper. Use spreadsheets, lists and emails. Write everything down and plan a schedule – this way, you don’t have to be constantly thinking about what you need to do next. It’s all on paper for you.
Planning – plan your wedding based on how you want to FEEL on the day, not how you want other people to see it. My core desired feelings for the day were RELAXED and GROUNDED. Every single element of my wedding was selected to ensure that I felt relaxed and grounded in each moment.
Stress-free – enter the stress-free zone each day. Meditation, reading, massage, hot bath and walking are fantastic. Schedule this time in and stick to it! Balance is important so that you can maintain perspective.
Getaway – don’t let wedding planning rule your life and don’t forget the real reason why you’re getting married. Plan a weekend getaway with your loved one once a month to ensure balance. Remember, the getaway must be free of wedding talk! Your getaway doesn’t have to be expensive either, day trips to the beach are an amazing way to clear the mind.
Savour each moment – look into your loved ones eyes, breathe deeply and feel your feet on the ground. These three actions will bring you back to the present moment.
Time expands – remember that time expands. Busy is a choice. Stress is a choice. Happiness is a choice. What needs to be done will get done, in it’s own divine timing. Surrender and enjoy the process. There will always be hurdles (throughout your wedding and life!). It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you choose to react it. Choose to learn and grow from the hurdles. Be thankful and grateful for the opportunity to expand.
Do you have any other tips to add to this list?